I want to first start off by saying this is not intended to bash either side of the sexes. It is a simple philosophical application of cause and effect in the relationship between men and woman. So don’t get your panties/boxers in a wad.
Men are predominantly driven by sex. They talk about it, pursue it and think about it relentlessly. They find it a challenge to talk to a woman without their thoughts drifting off into partaking in sexual activities with her. They more often than not view woman as an object of their desires or a means to an end (an ejaculation) rather than a friend, a person, a companion or a partner. This is why a man will relentlessly steer the conversation to be sexual in nature.
Woman, on the other hand are predominantly driven by attention. They dress provocatively, wear makeup, and post sexy pictures of themselves. They buy undergarments that further enhance their appearance and/or conceal any “undesirable body features”. They spend their whole life obsessing about their diet and spend hundreds if not thousands of dollars on their hair, makeup and beauty products. Some of them even undergo cosmetic surgery to enhance their appearance to pursue their never ending desire for attention.
Men have begun to expect this behavior from woman. However, they themselves spend little time concerning themselves with their own physical appearance to attract a woman’s attention. Do they diet, undergo cosmetic procedures, spend thousands of dollars on appearance enhancing products? The answer is NO. They simply don’t have to. Women are so consumed by attention that if a man with a beer belly or a receding hairline shows them attention they are completely ok forgoing his deficiencies. If he has enough charm or “game” and shows her attention, he will more than likely get what he wants.
Women are always complaining about men being “players”. However, more often than not woman are attracted to the “bad boys”. “Bad boys” are just guys that have mastered the art of giving attention to woman. Because of this, they can pursue multiple women without any consequence to them. There will always be another woman craving his attention that he is more than willing to delve out. On the flip side of that, aren’t women themselves being “players”? When they get a breast augmentation or wear a sexy low cut dress are they not playing a game?
They difference between the man and a woman is “to what end”. What are our actions geared toward or trying to accomplish. Most men want sex. It’s as simple as that. Women want a relationship or a man to care about her and show her attention outside of the bedroom. Once the sex is over men are left feeling accomplished and woman are often left feeling betrayed.
It seems to me that men are getting what they want and it is the women that are not. Ladies!!! I can’t stress this enough. Stop blaming the men. If you do what you have always done.. You will get what you have always got! If you want to stop being played, stop playing! If you don’t want a man to see you as just an object of sexual desire, stop obsessing over becoming one. Be your beautiful self and engage in activities that the man will be forced to get to know you on a friend basis. Don’t let your activities or conversations be steered into a sexual nature. Don’t give up the goods! Be happy with yourself and hold out for the right man to come along. In the end you will both be happy.